Many women and even men say that marriage is a sign of true commitment. It’s a sign that someone is serious.
Even I, am guilty of saying this as well.
However, today I realized the fault of my words.
When I say that, I have context for it. I have knowledge that pairs with the saying that not everyone else has. So when they hear me say, “Don’t waste your time unless they are planning to get married.” They hear only that. But I hear something different. I hear all the additional knowledge, understanding and wisdom that comes along with it that others don’t.
Today, I realized I need to tell more when I say anything like that. It alone isn’t enough.
The girl who suffered because she forgot this one thing
I met a girl who seemed decent. I learned that she was engaged at one point. I learned her story of relationships. The things that occurred and the damage that was done and how it all transpired. In summary, of course.
Now this girl seemingly did everything right.
She had a guy. They were together. They were engaged. He proposed to her and got her an engagement ring.
On paper, that’s about as serious as you can get! That’s committed!
Right?
On the outside and to normal eyes, that’s exactly what you want.
But they were missing one KEY thing…
What makes a marriage isn’t the two people, the ring or the wedding
It’s God.
You see. The vast majority of people only get married because they see it as the way things are supposed to be done.
However, marriage holds no real weight to them. It means nothing more than, “I see everyone else do this so it’s what I am supposed to do as well.”
But without God, marriage is useless. Marriage is meaningless. There is no covenant. There is no commitment. There is no fear of God. There is no standard to meet. There is no vow. And there is no one holding you accountable to that vow.
Without God, there is no fear of breaking the marriage. There is no fear of breaking your promise.
God ordained marriage. He put it in place. Without God, there is nothing there.
It’s an empty promise. It’s just words.
When you get married, you aren’t making a promise to the other person as much as you are making one with God.
And when you don’t follow God, your not making a promise to anyone that will truly hold you accountable.
Let’s find out the results of it.
Because they were missing God…
What ended up happening was the guy committed adultery. The dude who was engaged to this girl ended up sleeping with another girl.
This girl. Out of love and attachment. Forgave him.
What did he do?
He ended up committing adultery again!
And the reason why?
The guy—I refuse to call him a man—isn’t a Christian. The guy doesn’t follow Jesus Christ or have any fear of God.
This is why it’s so important that your partner is a man of GOD.
Otherwise, a promise of marriage is worth nothing. It means nothing. It is as good as nothing.
So women, do not be fooled by a promise of marriage if there is nothing behind it. If the man does not follow God.